Peace is a universal state of mind that everyone thrives for. If your anything like me, you were (are) blinded by the standards of society of how one is suppose to achieve peace of mind- school, job, sex, money, etc. People try so hard to obtain these material objects thinking it will bring them happiness. I feel a lot of people are disappointed when they realize it was all an illusion.
I can speak from personal experience. I came from a broken home and a dysfunctional upbringing (which is now in the process of being mended). Society told me if I go to school everything will be just fine. Well, it didn’t work out that way for me. Because I still felt ‘incomplete’ from my upbringing. Things needed to be fixed at home before I was able to let anything else bring me fulfillment. I couldn’t enjoy my upscale, luxurious school because I was too busy dwelling and focusing on the broken relationships I left behind back home. A night I would cry because I felt a big chunk of my heart was elsewhere. I desired my fathers approval, I tried so hard. When going to college didn’t achieve it, I was heart broken.
One night I got sick of the tears and feeling miserable by myself, I decided to do something about it. I started a blog . Writing has always been my passion, and because I couldn’t find approval from my only parent, I looked for it elsewhere. The next night I wrote my first blog entry and made the bold decision to make it public. I posted the link on my facebook for the world to see on October 1st.
My blog has taught me a lot. It taught me communication is vital when trying to resolve any issue. That was a difficult concept to grasp. Communication was never a key element in my household.
Most importantly, it’s taught me that peace comes from within. Peace can only be found through your love and acceptance of yourself everyday. Society’s norms try to manipulate into thinking that you won’t or can’t be satisfied with your life until you do X, Y, and Z. Well, I’ve tried all the letters in the alphabet and found happiness in none.
I had to go back home, from the roots, and receive love and support from my father to be able to support and love myself appropriately and be comfortable with doing so.
My struggle with peace has made it clear to me how much everyone else struggles with finding comfort and solace with themselves. I was devastated to find out someone from my class committed suicide. I honestly cannot fathom or wrap my head around the idea of someone feeling that is there last option. Everyone struggles, and each struggle is different from one another. I hope it is comforting that we struggle together. We are young and learning, and my blog helps me tremendously with putting the pieces of peace together.
Home is truly were comfort should come from. Not everyone is lucky to have home be a comfort, and I was one of them for a long time. If you want and try hard enough for something, it is possible to achieve it. It all comes from within and how much you are willing to sacrifice. Diginity and pride aside, I’ve learned it’s all about compromise.
What I am okay with being blinded by is love. Love is nice, sincere, and giving. It seeks not to afflict pain or negative condemnation, but to lift in positively improve one another without reason. It seeks to selfless fulfill, and in turn is fulfilled by the fulfillment of others. Love is my piece of peace that makes sense to me and helps me sleep at night. That things can be done for the greater good without reason, but for the sake of doing so.

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